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I have never been so content in my life. I feel like I have just started living, in a meaningful and intentional way. I have never wanted to make such healthy changes and be in a healthy community of people who challenge me. I feel so free to not feel the need to be a people pleaser, to convince myself that i could help people. The truth is, I wasn't helping anyone, I am not a healer, counselor or reconciler. Only God can do that, and He can use me through that. I truly had myself convinced that I could help these people and by doing so I used them to numb myself. Looking back I don't really remember much....just certain memories or things that happened along the way and how i felt about people. I was reading tonight about how God gave us memory, how He gave it to us to know what truly satisfies us and how we can return back to that in the future. Something so simple i never thought about. Therefore, I know God has really spared me in the fact that I have to sit and think hard on a lot of things that have happened to me if I want to remember them. I can feel again. I feel emotions, I can sympathize with someone hurting and not automatically go into "fix it" mode. I can just listen and be there with them. It is not something that will go away, I have to be constantly aware of it. I have to stop and question my own intentions of why i would say this or what my motives would be.

This has changed everything for me. I am now for the first time ever living as a forgiven person. I stopped holding onto what people had done to me in the past and choices I had made. I didn't believe that God couldn't forgive me, I just believed they gave me some sort of identity. Until i realized, I wasn't living, my hands were clinched onto those dark dark things of my past and when i set them free, I felt God's love for me, felt worthy of God loving me and others. There are still times when I will start to slip into telling myself I am not fun anymore because I don't go and get wasted and find my worthiness in any guy who shows it, or not the life of the party. Because those days were some of the darkest days of my life. I wasn't living, i was numb, using anything and anyone to numb. I have found such contentment and joy in my life now. Looking at life and the things that happen to me as things God is using to test me and to teach me new things and some bad things just happen because that is life. but i am no more just going along through life living day to day 'wondering what will happen today' but with intention. Loving God and myself and others. Okay. Done typing! Now i can breathe again!